We all like to think we know ourselves really well – in fact, better than anyone.Â Really?Â Perhaps we are just fooling ourselves.Â You could probably write an ownerâ€™s manual for your closest friends and family members, but how well do you think youâ€™d do on one for you.
This analogy about your ownerâ€™s manual comes from Melanie Hayden-Sparks, the founder of H-TRIO, and her ReSolutions Program, which helps you ReDream, ReThink, and ReCreate your life.Â Iâ€™ve taken the ReSolutions course several times and itâ€™s never the same experience nor does it give me the same results.
I love the analogy from the movie Shrek.
Shrek:Â Ogres are like onions.
Donkey:Â They stink?
Donkey:Â They make you cry.
Shrek:Â NO! LAYERS! Onions have layers. OGRES have layers. Onions have layers…you get it. We both have layers.
Donkey:Â Oh, you both have layers. You know, not everybody likes onions.
Like ogres, thereâ€™s a lot more to you than meets the eye.Â You have layers.Â How well do you know your layers?Â Are you prepared to peel back a few and see for yourself?Â You may be surprised at what you find.
It may me true that no one knows you better than you do.Â However, most of us live our lives in various states of oblivion or denial with blinders on or blind spots.Â Much like driving a vehicle, if you donâ€™t pay attention to your blind spots, you can get into trouble.Â Itâ€™s self-examination like this that can help you get unstuck or progress faster to achieve the things you want in life personally and professionally.
Hereâ€™s a list of 10 questions you should ask yourself:
1.Â Â Â What motivates you? This may be a list of things and may vary depending on circumstances.
2.Â Â Â What distracts you or what do you avoid doing? These would or could be your avoidance mechanisms such as emails and web surfing at work or cleaning and making lists at home.Â Like most activities, if done too much or to avoid them, they are distractions and excuses.
3.Â Â Â What do you love to do? These can be simple little things or more complex things that you truly love to do.
4.Â Â Â What is your greatest strength? Greatest weakness? Remember any attribute if taken to extremes becomes a detriment.
5.Â Â Â What are your values and beliefs? This is probably the hardest and most involved question, so take your time and add as much to your answer or list as you can.
6.Â Â Â Who adds to your life?Â And what to they add? Although most people list friends and family first, you are welcome to add people who inspire you whether they are still living or not.
7.Â Â Â What are your fears? And why?Â What do you do to avoid dealing with it?Â Sometimes addressing why we fear something can help overcome or minimize that fear.
8.Â Â Â What are you most grateful for and why? You can incorporate people into your answers so long as you elaborate on the â€œwhatâ€ they do and the â€œwhyâ€ you are grateful.
9.Â Â Â Are you making progress in the areas you want to improve? Chris Attwood and Janet Bray Attwoodâ€™s The Passion Test is a great tool to help you prioritize your passions and motivations.
10. What do you want your legacy to be? Be as elaborate as you want.Â This is not just your epitaph or what you hope people would say about you at your funeral or after youâ€™re gone.Â This is your legacy and what it looks like after you are gone.
There are no right or wrong answers, so be as honest and complete in your answers.Â Remember, you canâ€™t fool yourself…for long.
Hereâ€™s a hint…ask some of the people closest to you how they would answer these questions about you.Â You may be pleasantly surprised by the answers, especially since most people see us better than how we see ourselves.
Hereâ€™s another hint…answer the question for you personally and answer them for you professionally.Â You can learn as much from noting the similarities as you can the differences.
Donâ€™t worry, you donâ€™t have to share your answers with me or anyone else unless you want to or feel inspired to share.
Thanks for joining me.Â Iâ€™m off to do my ReSolutions workbook again and then maybe Iâ€™ll watch Shrek for the umpteenth time.
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